Most often the challenge in letting go of our possessions is because of our emotional ties and memories we hold with each item we have in our collection. Just like our life tends to have a soundtrack so do our closets, garages, and draws. Every item has its story, a history.
So the very first step is to be gentle with yourself as you make your deletions. I’ve found it’s very often a journey down memory lane. So, it’s important to take your time through the experience.
The first purge tends to be daunting and fully overwhelming if you try to take on too much at one time. It’s better to eat slowly and take small bites.
I usually recommend starting in your garage or storage unit first. Logic, well these are not in your daily rotation so they’ve already been downgraded in your personal hierarchy of importance. If your time is limited take a section at a time each week. Once your garage is sorted it will become your transition area.Read More
“Reflections of The way life used to be…”
Lost Dreams – The regrets we die with.
Lost Loved Ones – Living with the holes left by loved ones who have died.
Lost Me – That moment when you realize you are still you but trapped in an old body.
It seems like all of these stockpiles as we age and at some point, the price is kinda high and can definitely pull us towards the rabbit hole. I can honestly say when all mine hit at one time I lived right on the rabbit hole and still haven’t fully found my way back.
The one thing I can see clearly now is that your network of friends is so very important at this place. It’s especially nice if you have some of the people who have known you a long time who can remind you of you. New relationships at this point are just harder to embrace, it’s like a meal without seasoning, it tastes okay but it’s missing some flavor and well it’s the flavor that makes the meal.Read More
When you are in the thick of your body changing it really does feel like why is this happening to me! But we have to remind ourselves, it happens to everyone if you stay alive on this planet.
So one of the things I found that helped me was looking at someone I didn’t know that had gone through it. So I looked at famous women. I found a famous woman in her seventies and looked at their photos from the twenties, thirties, forties, fifties, sixties, and seventies. While she still might look great you’ll see that her body has changed over the years. Sometimes visuals just make it easier to recognize the changes are normal.Read More
So the period roller coaster of menopause is just insane. I did ask my older friends for guidance and well they just didn’t remember the whole process. I took that to mean it’s a lot like childbirth, you forget the unpleasant parts enough to do it again. I personally never went down that path so I did not have that reference point. But now a few years past walking through fire and I can honestly tell you I don’t remember when I had my last period and quite frankly it’s hard to remember ever having one. Yes, that sounds so crazy but it’s the weird before and after. You have so many new body challenges that you don’t really have time to linger on what has already flipped.Read More
I’ve heard this rumor and even read about this thing called intimacy. It sounds enticing… and scary…. I can’t actually say I know about it first hand. I want to but I have a tendency to run from it, I guess you could say I have a love-hate relationship with a theory. But ya know, I believe that it exists, I really do. I don’t know how to find it, but I do know how to be naughty and freaky!Read More